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Allison Moon: I wanted to try out nonfiction, and I love stories about sex lives—sex is endlessly fascinating to me. Most of the stories were already developed and performed for a show here in San Francisco called Bawdy Storytelling, but I wanted to develop the book into a more cohesive collection that explored the arc of my sexual identity, so I added stories like "The Skinny" and "Headline News," which are light on sex but introduced my burgeoning queer identity. From there I plumbed my past for moments of discovery, insight, or adventure that spoke to that theme.Did your queer identity change or evolve while you were writing?
I put together the book in about two months, so not really. But I think the writing did help me uncover some long forgotten memories of crushes and puppy loves of girls from my childhood. It helped me create a more cohesive understanding of my own sexual narrative. With queers there are two prevailing narratives: the "I have always known!" versus the "And then suddenly everything was different!" I think the truth for most of us is in between, revealed in tiny moments of discovery or excitement—the movie star crush or quickening heartbeat when we're near a crush that we don't have the means of contextualizing.
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Labels are so contextual. They're affected by region, age group, social strata, and plenty of other factors. Here in the Bay Area, queer is prevalent. In the Midwest, I often hear "gay woman" instead of lesbian. But a label isn't just how a person identifies inside her own mind, but rather she's describing relationships and interactions inside a community. When I describe fluidity of [identity], I often say, "Let's say you're a lesbian and your partner decides to transition her gender from female to male. What does that make you? Are you functionally straight now? If you maintain your lesbian identity are you betraying your partner's gender?"This is precisely what I mean when I say labels fail the multiplicity of the human experience. We don't have words that sufficiently describe sexual people. This is why I chose to call the book (and myself) Bad Dyke. I am functionally a dyke—my culture, my community, and my preferred sex partners are all dyke. But then there's this one small issue of my primary partner.It's so complicated.
Exactly. This is why I think queer is becoming so popular. People are craving umbrella identities that don't attempt to put a fine point on anything but rather open up a conversation.You discuss a lot of these issues in Girl Sex 101. Is it a how-to book, except with erotica?
Girl Sex 101 is a hybrid illustrated sex-ed book and erotic novella all about queer lady sex. Erotica is awesome, but it can sometimes be too vague to be a teaching medium, but sex-ed how-to [books] can feel sterile and removed from real-life experiences. I thought combining these two genres would allow the strengths of both to deliver a better experience for the reader, one that's both hot and educational.Allison Moon is the author of the memoir Bad Dyke, the queer sex-ed book Girl Sex 101, and the lesbian werewolf novels Lunatic Fringe and Hungry Ghost. Follow her on Twitter.Tara Burns is the author of the Whore Diaries series. Follow her on Twitter.